Summer goes by so fast. We blink, and it’s Labor Day, and we’re left wondering where the summer went. In past years, I’ve felt a little sadness, even regret, at not getting to do something that summer, because I just ran out of time.
I’m crabby. Yes. I said it. I’m really crabby. I know! It’s ironic. I’m the life coach that teaches people to be happy. I teach about love and appreciation. I’m being honest. I’m human, and I’m crabby. This winter was a long one – for me. We had some hard times this winter and a heart-breaking event. There was that spell in February where the temperature was negative-below-stupid for a while. We took a short trip to Southern California. Cold. In March, we went to Las Vegas hoping for some warmth. Guess what? Cold. At least there wasn’t snow and ice.
This article might bend your brain a little bit, but please stay with me to the end, and it will come together. So that we’re all on the same page, let’s start with the definition of the word forgive. Think about what it means to forgive someone. What do you do? What do you say? How do you act or behave? The most common definition of the word forgive, Google tells us is: “to stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.” Think about that. To forgive means to stop feeling angry or resentful. That’s all. That’s the only requirement for forgiveness to happen. This is really powerful to understand.
This year has been an amazing, wonderful year for me personally and professionally. If you’re not familiar with my story, the focus of my life for the past three years has been building my life coaching business and losing weight. My business is growing, and I've been shrinking. I have lost a total of 176 pounds, and the question I get most is, “How did you lose all that weight?” Here’s the secret answer: I did it by making decisions ahead of time, constraint, commitment, and resolve. As this year ends and you consider the next, you may be looking to make big changes in your life. Let me give you a few pointers. I have learned two important lessons this year. First, I learned constraint. I learned how to limit the number of decisions I was making. Second, I learned to make decisions ahead of time and honor those decisions later. These two skills have changed my life in ways I could not have imagined even a year ago.